I'm afraid of what's to come while going through my divorce. Any advice? (Kinda long, sorry)?

Well, I'm soon 25 & he is soon 22 and due to some trust and control issues, it has been decided that we are going to go through with divorce, but (we both agree) we are waiting a couple months to go through with filing and such,even though the timing leaves me in charge of dealing with a lot of the stuff. B/c he's military and will be gone for a bit. I have been ok'd by him to deal with everything though, like, moving things into storage and stuff, b/c my husband won't be here to take care of it until a month later after we don't sign the lease which is up in September, so I have to get it all out. And by the time he gets back i'll be having to find my own place and such. Anyway, I'm afraid that once we begin the filing things will start getting messy and won't go as smoothly as discussed. I'm only asking for a few items from the home. We will both be able to claim an automobile, so we'll both have means of transportation and we will both have items to live off of with no problems. (Hopefully). I'm also afraid of how i'm going to make it on my own. I just was able to get a part time job, but i'm barely getting 10 hrs a week b/c of training. I'm sure it will pick up, but it scares me to think that this is all I'll have to live off of. (I'll of course have to pick up another job) The only thing is I have to move back to my home state and will have to find jobs there, so I don't even have a part time when this happens. Also, I'm having a hard time trying to figure out how to tell my aunt that I really don't want to have to live with her when this all goes down. I've lived with her before marriage, and it went horribly and one reason why my husband and I got married so quickly, so we'd have more money to live off of when she kicked me out that time. I know it's a blessing for her to be willing to take me in again when I'll be going through difficult times and looking for jobs, and paying my $4k debt and $8k school loans, but Idk if I think it's 100% a good idea. And I kinda want to be able to get on my feet on my own, but I wouldn't have any place to live right away if I didn't accept. Unless I set a goal this time around I just see it going horribly again, but I think my aunt would look down on me if I tried to get my own place in a different town so soon after moving there. B/c if I set a goal it would be 6 months tops! I don't know do any of you have any advice or stories you could share to give me some positives or something. I just feel like I'm on my own and no one to talk to unless I find a counselor to talk to about it. B/c I talk to my aunt about everything and she doesn't really care about me divorcing my husband cause she says 'good riddance' b/c of our situation, but I feel nervous to talk to her about my ideas like getting an apartment of my own as soon as it's possible, and thoughts of going to college again and maybe living on a campus somewhere. Idk I have a lot of ideas, but I know a lot of them aren't going to be possible and some of them will just make my aunt think i'm retarded if i do them. ( she's a control freak herself, but she's like a mom and I've always wanted her approval and acceptance, if that makes sence) The last thing I want to do while going through divorce is to start disappointing my family, but I want to be able to make my own decisions for once. Idk any help?